Debbie Greenblatt writes in Mishpacha about emunah and marriage. She describes a woman who suffered great emotional pain in her marriage. She had confided in Ms. Greenblatt that "she married the wrong man. She insisted that there had been another person in her youth who would have been more suitable, and she should have married him."
Ms. Greenblatt responds that , "while this fantasy may be useful as a coping mechanism in a difficult situation, the underlying premise is untrue and a tremendous obstacle in rectifying the situation. If we believe that we are where Hashem wants us to be, it will help us put our entire being into the effort of building and repairing our shalom bayis."
How many of us also have a person in our past that was more suitable? Let's stop living in the past and uttering if only and let's concentrate on making the most of the marriages we are in. Let's work on the present, whether it is on getting into shape, becoming better people, enrolling in courses etc. We are in the situation where Hashem wants us to be so let's work to be at peace with where we are now.
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